So a few hours went by after blowing the lid on the whole santa thing … and my 8 year old is in front of me and brings up santa. I look at him unsure about what to say as I wasn’t sure if he wanted me to tell him again as he perhaps wasn’t sure he understood what I had said earlier or he wanted to pretend he does exist and go with that. I asked him “do you want the truth or do you want me to tell you something you want to hear?”
And he hesitated and his first answer was “both”, Which made me sad for a second but then he quickly said “I want the truth.”
So I still felt a little down as I felt like I killed it for him but then I remembered a letter I had saved several years ago that was written by another blogger and I went to get it and used parts of it to help explain.
He asked me for clarity; if I am santa….
I said “no. I am not Santa. There is no ONE Santa.”
“I am the person who fills your stocking and I wrap your gift under the tree with dad’s help.”
“I imagine you will someday do this for your children, and I know you will love seeing them run down the stairs on Christmas morning and sit under the tree with their faces lit with Christmas lights.”
“This won’t make you Santa, though either.”
“Santa is bigger than any person, and his work has gone on longer than any of us have lived. What he does is simple, but it is powerful. He teaches children how to have belief in something they can’t see or touch.”
“It’s a big job, and it’s an important one. Throughout your life, you will need this to believe: in yourself, in your friends, in your talents and in your family. You’ll also need to believe in things you can’t measure or even hold in your hand. Here, I am talking about love, that great power that will light your life from the inside out, even during its darkest, coldest moments.”
“Santa is a teacher, and I have been his student, and now you know the secret of how he gets down all those chimneys on Christmas Eve: he has help from all the people whose hearts he’s filled with joy.”
“With full hearts, people like Daddy and me take our turns helping Santa do a job that would otherwise be impossible.”
“So, no. I am not Santa. Santa is love and magic and hope and happiness. I’m on his team, and now you are, too.” *
What really made him light up was when I told him he was santa too !
and it was in that moment that all the doubts and questions of ‘should I have said all of this’ disappeared 🙂
My 8 year old is so excited about the spirit of santa and thrilled that he knows about the magic… so perhaps I haven’t messed up after all 🙂
*the letter I used can be found at this site; http://www.cozi.com/live-simply/truth-about-santa and I believe the original author is Martha Brockenbrough
update: a week has gone by since I told him and he seems more excited and happier then ever